It's a finger-flicking hymn to the instant gratification of the smartphone age.It's addictive.” Matt Fradd is a Catholic speaker and author and founder of The Porn Effect, a website with a mission to “expose the reality behind the fantasy of pornography and to equip individuals to find freedom from it.” In his ministry, he’s heard a lot of stories from young people about their struggle to overcome objectifying people through porn. “Tinder exists for those who would rather not purchase a prostitute,” he told CNA.Instead of pausing and taking the time to form real relationships, some people may decide to move on to the next best thing because they have so many options.“Therefore, in as much dating apps are impersonal and transitory, or are used with the intention for receiving gratification and pleasure, they are immoral,” he said.Based on a photo, first name, and age alone, users decide whether to swipe left (to pass) or right (to like).With GPS tracking, the app also tells users exactly how far away potential matches may be, making life even easier for those just looking for a quick hook-up. It's a seriously shallow app that turns people into quickly-judged commodities on a screen.Meeting someone in person as soon as possible is also key, she said, in determining whether or not a match made online or in an app has a chance of turning into a dating relationship.But apps like Tinder aren’t exactly helping breathe new life into romance, she said. The nearly-anonymous sex is of course the antithesis of anything romantic or respectful.
There are hundreds upon thousands of women, about whom you know almost nothing, and you snap-appraise them with a single swipe.
Alex in the Vanity Fair article said dating apps have turned romance into a competition of “Who's slept with the best, hottest girls?
” “You could talk to two or three girls at a bar and pick the best one, or you can swipe a couple hundred people a day—the sample size is so much larger,” he said.
” asked Michelle, a twenty-something practicing Catholic who lives in Chicago.
While she's definitely experienced the creepier side of Tinder – with guys sending her “rankings” on a scale of 1 to 10 and other, um, less-than-endearing messages, she said she found the app could be used as a way to maybe meet some new people in person and to get recommendations of things to do in the city.
Many young people who've used Tinder also argue that the “shallow” critique is a bit overblown, considering that dating always takes into account whether or not a potential mate is physically attractive.